cristism doesn't work for me
intriguing yes, how the human mind works?
ready for a bit of ken jones style blog.
today, being a very fun day that it is, my parents thought it best to help me along w life by critising me in every way possible...
now, bless my parents (and i seriously mean that) after many years of me telling them off for telling me off, they've tried a new technique, where they tell me stuff that is wrong w me...but try to do it in the nicest voice possible....it often still turns into full blown crisitism....but they do try
the problem is, the more they talk abt it the more defensive i become. if only they could say it once and shut up. i get it. i do. i just chose to ignore it u see (and here would be another thing for they to crisitize me abt)
the things i got critised for today:
what the parents say: " you need to learn that important information abt our friends that u find out abt first, u must tell us straight away"
what i actually heard: "ur so crap, why don't you know how to be responsible?"
parents say: " u should really start taking notice of things"
i hear: " your so irresponsible. grow up and start behaving properly"
parents say: "oh look, kim is looking thin these days"
i hear: "everyone is starting to looker thin beside u thu bc ur fat and ur ugly and ur not really getting anywhere"
parents say: "u should try to be more responsible, behave a bit better and lose a bit of weight"
what i think: exactly what i heard from the previous bits of advice
sigh. it could be just me, but their tone of voice puts me in defensive mode and then everything they say just makes me bitter...
and i'm not the only one who does it. i've seen plenty of ppl get really defensive when crisitism come their way. and i finally figured it out i think....u become defensive when u think those things urself. u may think those things are ur flaws, but until someone else verbalises them they don't seem so bad...so raw....so when they're said in the open...its a shock to the system and u become bitter...
sigh.....and i was on a high from yesterday too...damn these changing moods.
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